THE STORY OF ADÉGBÖRÒ L'OJA OBA, a Yoruba Adage

ADEGBORO left Ibadan for Lagos in search of greener pasture. He chose to be carrying loads (Alabaru) on his head at Oyingbo market to earn a living.*

Few years after, he bought a cart from his savings and this eased the pain of carrying loads on his head for commercial purposes. The Cart also increased his income and he was able to acquire 6 more of its kind which he rented out to others.

*Exactly 8 years in this cart pushing business, Adegboro bought a van which many called BOLEKAJA and learning how to drive, he handled the business by himself. 4 years into the Bolekaja business, Adegboro had been a proud owner of 6 Vans.*

Being a bona fide Ibadan son, (omo bibi ilu Ibadan) ADEGBORO built a magnificent building at OJA OBA where the Olubadan Palace was situated when it was time to put a roof on his head.

*Many people at this period approached Adegboro to show them the secret behind his success. He simply asked them if they could carry loads on their heads in the market to earn income (alabaru)? And their response had always been "NEVER".*

He too would spontaneously say *"ENI TI O LE SE ALABARU L'OYINGBO, KO LE SE BI ADEGBORO L'OJA OBA"* - this is a replica of the adage also in Yoruba land that says; "ÌSASÙN tabi IKOKO TI YIO J'ATA (OBE), IDI RE A KOKO GBONA". (A pot that wants to consume a palatable soup must have its bottom burnt or heated with fire first).

In Life, to endure is to achieve. No short cut is sustainable. Wealth is built over time in a small bit but in a persistent way!!!!!!
Our children must learn from this true life story. They must shun the get-rich-quick syndrome that's affecting most youths today, many have entered into traps of human traffickers, sold into sex slaves, drugs, prostitution, and what have you, in desperation for get-rich-quick green pastures. Today, many are still being auctioned for sale in LIBYA.

*Sit your children down and teach them the meaning of the popular poem by J.F. Odunjo:*

*ISE NI OOGUN ISE (Work is the antidote for poverty)*

Ise l’ogun ise
(Work is the antidote for poverty)

Mura s’ise ore mi
(Work hard, my friend)

Ise la fi n’deni giga
(Work/Labour is the major tool for elevation)

Bi a ko ba reni feyin ti
(If we do not have anyone to lean on)

Bi ole la’nri
(We appear indolent)

Bi a ko ba reni gbekele
(If we do not have anyone to support us)

A tera mo’se eni
(We simply work harder)

Iya re le lowo lowo
(Your mother might be rich)

Baba re le lesin lekan
(Your father may have a stable full of horses)

Bi o ba gbo’ju lewon
(If you rely on them)

O te tan ni mo so fun o
(You are close to shame and disgrace, I tell you)

Ohun ti a ko ba ji’ya fun,
(Whatever one does not work hard to earn)

Se kii le pe lowo;
(Usually does not last)

Ohun ti a ba fara sise fun,
(Whatever gain one seriously labours for)

Nii pe lowo eni.
(Usually lasts with one)

Apa lara
(Your arm is you relative )

Egunpa niyekan

(your elbow is your sibling)

B’aye ba n’fe o loni
(If the world loves you today)

Bi o ba lowo lowo
(If you have money)

Aye a ma fe o lola
(The world will still love you tomorrow)

Tabi ki o wa ni’po atata
(Or if you are in a prestigious position)

Aye a ma ye o si terin-terin
(The world will celebrate you with smiles)

Je k’o de’ni tin rago
(Wait till you become poor)

Aye a ma yinmu si o
(The world will grimace at you)

Eko si’nso ni d’oga
(Education also elevates one to higher positions)

Mura ki o ko dara dara
(Ensure that you acquire it well)

Bi o si r’opo eniyan
(And if you see a lot of people)

Ti won f’eko s’erin rinrin
(Making mockery of education with laughter)

Dakun ma f’ara we won
(Please do not emulate or keep their company)

Iya n’bo fun’omo ti ko gbon
(Suffering beckons for the unwise child)

Ekun n’be fun’omo to nsa kiri
(Tears are due for the truant child)

Ma f’owuro sere ore mi
(Do not toy with your early years)

Mura si’se ojo’nlo
(Work hard; time waits for no one).

Adewale Sunday, 13 May 2018
Lack of Trust Destroy Marriage


A wife suspected her husband of having sex with their house maid, then she set a trap for the husband by sending the house maid to the village for weekend without telling the husband.

At night, the husband told his usual story "Darling i want to go and watch wrestling in the sitting room" and he left.

The wife silently went to the house maid's room lying down on the bed naked without any light, and the door was open and someone join her on the bed without wasting time and without a word, he had sex with her.

After the fifth round she said, it's enough, i have caught u, so this is how you use to have sex with her, and you will do two round with me and tell me you are tired; fifth round now you are still demanding for more habi?

The gate man shouted and replied "AM SORRY MADAM I DON'T KNOW YOU ARE THE ONE, NO BE OGA DEY FUCK THE HOUSE MAID O, NA ME"

Madam shouted "EWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!", then the husband rushed in and caught them.

If you are the man or woman, what will you do?

Anyone that judge book by its cover will definitely buy wrong one.
Let learn to be patient, trust and investigate throughly before we judge people.

Moral Lesson:

Trust is one of the keys to happy home. Suspicion could bring disaster in marriage in every ramificationsh.

Adewale Monday, 7 May 2018
APC FAIL TO DELIVER THEIR PROMISES

It was very hard for people of Nigeria, petrol was at #87 per litter, our people in North were being killed, shoot and bomb on dialy basis, Internally Display Person number increase to over 300,000  now over 500,000 no physical or meaningful infrastructure; Lagos ibadan express way was a dead trap, Ogbomoso Oyo road can't be left out, Ilorin Niger road, and others with billions approved without no construction, electricity privatized, nearly everywhere blackout,
We cry for help, a slogan "change" become a hope,
Change promised people of Nigeria,
In 29 minutes presentation by Vice President aspirant of APC at Edo town hall meeting during compagn; He analysed all sectors how they would develop the country and take us to promise land.
I was happy and boosted, Nigerians don arrived. To me, professor, just 29 minutes, he solved all Nigeria problems.
But few people benefits, majority are suffering, Price of foods skyrocket with over 💯 increase without increase in salary, #45 was promised but today, it is #145, APC said subsidy is a scam and fraud in 2015 but today, they have paid over 4trillion naira for it. No good road, electricity is not stable. Min for Power, Fasola said in 2014 '" only 6months is required to stabilize Nigeria electricity by a serious government". Please, 3 years now, I don't see the impact. Several institution shutdown for years, worst part of it in Southwest, except Lagos, no development at grassroots/local government as a their governor's failed to conduct local government election for almost 8years.
Boko Haram is still killing, bombing and kidnapping our children, thereby discouraging education in some areas in the North.
Herdsmen killing is another civil war going now as people been killed daily in kogi, benue and some other parts with no proper and feasible action to stop it.
Our government have fail us.
People are not considerate, human being like us, our people been killed and they are saying we should be patient, government is trying, should we wait till they killed all Nigerians?
Obasanjo clear all debts but today, Nigeria domestic loan stand above 12trillion naira, for what project?

Our dear government, enough is enough:
STOP killing,
Revive our economy, redeem our image at international community,
Step down for youths,
It is our Time,
It impossible that only one person is best out of over 180 million people.
All we want is betterment of this country,
All we want is dividend of democracy,
All we want is eradication of poverty,
Good education
Conducive environment
Stable electricity
Good water
Good roads
Good infrastructure

My dear people, let wake up to our task, our efforts and support are required to succeed

Adewale Saturday, 28 April 2018
Reply to President Buhari speech NIGERIA YOUTHS are too lazy

"Nigerian youths are lazy & uneducated. Always wanting free oil money" ~ PMB

ME: Sir, you are absolutely correct. One of the lazy Nigerian youths who is enjoying free oil money had an accident with the power bike he bought with free oil money not too long ago, and he was flown abroad for treatment with free oil money, then he hired a jet with free oil money from London to Abuja after his treatment.

Sir, I completely agree with you that the Nigerian youths are lazy and uneducated and always wanting free oil money. Their role models are in Aso Rock enjoying free oil money without even solving any problem for the country. When they are ill, they fly abroad for medical vacation with free oil money.

Why would anyone disagree with you that the Nigerian youths are uneducated? It's very obvious. That's why they don't even know their rights. They keep defending your ineptitude.

You enjoyed free education as a young man, but today the youths are deprived of basic education. You were a governor, a petroleum commissioner and ahead of states as a youth, but today, youths are on social media defending your failures.

Honestly, I agree with you that the Nigerian youths are lazy, that's why you ruled Nigeria as a youth and have also grabbed the job as an old man. The youths are too ignorant to even know the implication of your comments. They don't even know you and your fellow old men are doing jobs they should ordinarily be doing.

Sir, the most interesting aspect of this your truth is that you said it in a country where their government provides basic infrastructures, almost free education, free WiFi, free health care, almost free investment loans for their youths. While, in your own country, these lazy and uneducated youths, provide their own electricity, schools, security, roads, healthcare etc.. Yet, the indolent youths use their "free oil money" to buy mobile data to defend your ineptitude.

Sir, let me remind you that we have seen so many Nigerian youths who were almost useless in Nigeria, but when they cross over to the western world, they suddenly begin to excel in different fields of endeavor. What do you think is responsible for their positive output in the foreign land? Your guess is as good as mine, Sir- The difference is not farfetched. A responsible government plan for their youths and create enabling environment for the youths to be able to create wealth and contribute to National development. Can we say the same of your own country? Certainly Not! Instead, we have lazy, uneducated youths who would hang on telecommunication masts and electric cables to shout SAI BABA when you visit their states. I only wish they knew better.

Sir, Finally, let me ask you, Sir, apart from the free oil money we have been paying you since your days as a youth till date, what have you been able to make out for yourself on your own? Do you have thriving businesses that are providing employment for the Nigerian youths? Have you invented anything on your own? Sir, you can now see that this free oil money is what has kept you going for over 50 years. Perhaps this laziness is not limited to the youths alone, I guess some 75-year-old incompetent presidents are also lazy and love free oil money, that's why they want to remain in power till they are 80 years old. If we take away the free oil money we have been paying you and audit your life, are you sure you will have any worth, Sir?

Adewale Thursday, 19 April 2018
Who Actually looted Nigeria

WHO ACTUALLY LOOTED NIGERIA FOR 16 YEARS?

Out of 24 APC governors today, 22 of them were members of the PDP that ruled for 16 years.

As if that is not enough 20 former PDP governors are now in APC and many of them with corruption cases, but PMB's corruption fight "no reach their side."

Do you also know that:
1. The first and current APC Senate President was in PDP?

2. The first APC Speaker of the  House of Representatives was also in PDP?

3. Three out of five former Speakers of the House of Representatives under PDP are now in APC?

3. A former PDP senate president is also in APC?

4. Two former national Chairmen of PDP are also now in APC?

5. Thousands of current APC  legislators at both state and national levels were in PDP?

6. Hundreds of  current APC ministers and commissioners today were in PDP?

7. Thousands of other former PDP leaders and members including former ministers,  legislators, commissioners, etc are now in APC?

Now who are the PDP members that APC keeps referring to that looted the nation's treasury for sixteen years?

Current APC Governors that Migrated from PDP:

1. Governor Ibikunle Amosun of Ogun State was a PDP Senator.

2. Governor Nasir El-Rufai of Kaduna State served as FCT minister under the PDP.

3. Governor Aminu Masari of Kastina State was a Former House of Representatives speaker under the PDP.

4. Governor Abubakar Bello of Niger State was a PDP Former Commissioner.

5. Governor Aminu Tambuwal of Sokoto was a Former PDP Speaker of the House of Representatives.

6. Governor Abdulfatah Ahmed of Kwara State was a Commissioner  and Governor under PDP.

7. Governor Badaru Abubakar of Jigawa State was in PDP.

8. Governor Simon Lalong of Plateau state was also in PDP.

9. Abdullahi Ganduje of Kano State was in PDP.

10. Governor Samuel Orthom of Benue State was a PDP Minister.

11. Governor Tanko Al-Makura of Nasarawa State was in PDP.

12. Governor Abubakar Bagudu of Kebbi State was a Former PDP Senator.

13. Governor Bindow Jubrilla of Adamawa State was a Former PDP Senator.

14. Governor Rochas Okorocha of Imo State was in PDP.

Former PDP Governors now in APC:
1. Aliyu Wammako -Sokoto
2. Rabiu Kwankwaso- Kano
3. Sai'du Dakingari -Kebbi
4 , Bukola Saraki - Kwara
5.  Murtal Nyako- Adamawa
6. Rotimi Amaechi -Rivers
7. Temiprye Sylva - Bayelsa
8 . Sullivan Chime- Enugu
9.  Obong Victor Attah- Akwa-Ibom
10. Chris Ngige - Anambra
11. Joshua Dariye -Plateau
12.  George Akume -Benue
13. Adamu Abdullahi - Nasarawa
14. Orji Uzor Kalu- Abia
15. Oserheimen Osunbor- Edo
16. Segun Oni -Ekiti
17. Alao Akala- Oyo
18. Danjuma Goje- Gombe
19. Olagunsoye Oyinlola -Osun
20. Garba Umar- Taraba

Anybody who says PDP members  looted the nation's treasury and are therefore corrupt is distorting the facts and therefore a shameless / barefaced liar, innately corrupt, fraudulent, self-centred, deceptive, wicked, broad day robber, oppressive and has no decency and humanity in them.

Are these the kind of people that should rule a nation?

Adewale Wednesday, 4 April 2018
My Kobo Advice to The “Coalition For Nigeria” - By Dele Momodu

Fellow Nigerians, please permit me to continue with my Presidential race series today. It has become obvious that nothing else, but the lack of competent, visionary, detribalised, selfless, accomplished, exposed, urbane, capable, cerebral, determined and ambitious leadership, has been the root cause of our intractable problems and incredible backwardness especially where national development is concerned. Even the things we used to excel at, like quality education, agriculture and exportable cash crops and more importantly, morality, decency and humaneness have long since eluded us and taken wings into far flung places. Our type of politics, of snatch, grab and grab, can never lead to any substantial progress and development unless we change how we’ve been doing things. All men and women of good conscience in Nigeria are in agreement that our country is in a big mess and that changing the baton of foolishness, recklessness and incompetence every four years, in a relay race of raw cash, brigandage, ethnicity and religion does not augur well for our dear nation. This cannot continue unchecked.

This is not about liking or disliking one President. It is about loving our dear beloved country, Nigeria, more. Our nation has become not only a serious embarrassment to itself but a source of considerable disquiet and discomfort to the African continent. True, however, that this calamity did not befall us under this government. It started when the first military putsch terminated the First Republic. Thereafter, we witnessed successive coup d’etats. Each coup maker advertised himself as coming to salvage and change Nigeria for the better but things got worse in many instances. The Civilian population also played an infamous role in this area by dancing for joy whenever the soon to become familiar refrain of the National Anthem followed by the haunting words “Fellow Nigerians” were announced on the airwaves.. We expected our military rulers to perform many miracles since they wielded the power of life and death but we were not so lucky. The Republic of Ghana was perhaps luckier, by having a no-nonsense leader Flight Lt. Jerry John Rawlings (aka Junior Jesus or Judas, depending on which side you belonged). He came, cleaned the Augean stable, erected a superstructure, improved the infrastructure, instilled discipline, reduced a culture of waste and inculcated a new ethos of doing things with less greed and avarice. Many Ghanaians disagree with this effusive description of Ghana under Rawlings but to onlookers, Ghana came out of that revolution better and stronger than most African States. I know many Nigerians who wistfully longed for some version of JJ Rawlings here but ours were too selfish, egocentric and clannish.

Nigeria has tried many leaders, from sinners to saints, but there is no doubt that none of them has taking us to Eldorado. It has been a tale of “all sound and fury…” but no performance. Two of our former military rulers came back from retirement to become civilian Presidents. General Olusegun Obasanjo, who served from 1976 and retired as Head of State in 1979, bounced back 20 years after, in 1999, and served a total of eight years as civilian President, making him the longest reigning leader in Nigeria’s chequered history, with a combined total of eleven years. I will not bore you with the melodrama of that era. His Vice President from 1999 to 2007 was Alhaji Atiku Abubakar, who started nursing his own Presidential since 1993 when he was eventually out-manoeuvred by the enigmatic and redoubtable Baba Gana Kingibe. The relationship between the Obasanjo and Atiku was that of cat and mouse because the Vice President subsequently wanted to contest himself in 2003.

Around that same 2003, another retired military ruler, Major General Muhammadu Buhari, decided it was his own turn to collect the baton and return to power as civilian President. He had been the Head of State from 1984 to 1985 when he was unceremoniously sacked by Major General Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida. His fall attracted unprecedented relief and wild jubilations because of his draconian style and what many saw as the hypocritical and nepotistic disposition of his government. His 2003 attempt was like testing the waters. He was popular in the North but not in the South and the Northern Regions alone could never make him President without substantial votes and electoral spread from some parts of the Southern Regions. He contested and lost to President Olusegun Obasanjo. In 2007, Buhari contested against his kinsman from Katsina State, Alhaji Umaru Musa Yar’Adua, and lost again to him. He complained bitterly that the race was skewed against him and litigation followed in a jiffy but hit the rocks, ultimately. In 2011, Buhari became a serial contestant, throwing his hat into the ring for a third time. However, it was not third time lucky as the results claimed he lost ignominiously to Dr Goodluck Jonathan. He was so disappointed, frustrated and bitter, that he vowed never to contest again. But man proposes and God disposes, the ruling PDP was on a reckless binge of surfeit and megalomania and had to be stopped by all means. Buhari was approached to become the rallying force, in 2015, for all those who wanted PDP out, by fire and by force. Miraculously, he won as the whirlwind of “Change” swept away the rampaging PDP. The expectations of the people in respect of the Buhari Presidency were thus extremely high. The rest is now history.

Nearly three years have passed since Buhari’s triumphant comeback and the next election is already knocking. The general consensus is that the Buhari government has underperformed, even if his hard-core loyalists disagree very vehemently. They point to several salutary achievements in the area of security (particularly with regard to the Boko Haram menace), increased reserves, improved Foreign Direct Investment and an ongoing relatively successful fight against corruption. The Opposition and the generality of the people want more.  They say that things have simply not changed. Instead they have become worse because, there is great fear and tension in the land.  The disunity is there for all to see and corruption and nepotism seems to be the order of the day within government circles.  The seething anger is palpable and it is like the country is a tinderbox, a nation sitting on a primed keg of gunpowder waiting for the fireworks of social disorder and violence to erupt. We continue to pray against such folly, but the government is simply not helping by the macabre dance, with ethnicity and religious jingoism, it seems to be engaged in.

By 2019, Buhari would be 76 years old. He has suffered health challenges. His style of governance has also been rated as too crude and sluggish. Some say he is not a President for 21st Century Nigeria because he lacks the physical and mental resources needed to crossover from the analog era of the 20th century into the digital age of the 21st century. Many of those who wished to support him to the end have become irritated and impatient. They simply cannot understand how the “People’s Messiah” frittered away such humongous goodwill and lost the chance to leave a glittering legacy for our people. His avuncular supporter, former President Obasanjo, has since jumped ship after releasing a most blistering attack in a very scathing open letter made public globally.

I have gone through this long preamble to remind us of why it has become imperative for Nigerians to pay more attention to who leads us henceforth. On my part, I have decided to speak to as many potential Presidents, Vice Presidents, Governors, Senators, House members, State Assembly members, etc, as possible. Four years is a long time to waste on frivolities, in the life of a nation. Never again must we elect people based on primordial sentiments. If President Buhari presents himself again, as it is his Constitutional right to do, he must be subjected to the most rigorous of tests. We must find out why he failed to become the change agent that we desperately wished for. He must know, that it is not sufficient to blame the unbridled corruption that characterised the previous government.  That was enough to deal with lack of progress for one year, possibly even eighteen months, but for two years and counting, Haba! Regardless however, he still has a bit of time to demonstrate what a second term under him will look like, but if truth be told, he is fast running out of that time. His challengers must even face tougher tests. For them we look for physical fitness and mental alertness, freshness, transparency, accountability but above all, vision, innovation, technological savviness and adeptness, leadership and progressive action. We should never base our choice and decision on empty promises but practical roadmaps and blueprints.

There is no doubt that Nigeria is long overdue for a major overhaul, but it is not going to happen overnight. It may not happen in the next four-year sequence, but we must begin the journey in 2019. While the experiment being attempted by the COALITION FOR NIGERIA is desirable, every care must be taken to ensure that this does not make our situation worse. I wish to warn again, and do so repeatedly, that there are presently no saints to form a new Party or, indeed, force. APC would not have materialised if those PDP Governors and big moneybags did not throw their weight behind Buhari. It is gratifying to note that for now, the Coalition is making the right noises and saying that it is a pressure group. Given the fact that the period between now and the next elections is short and is almost upon us. What it seems would be most desirable to see, is members of the Coalition going back to the two main parties and taking over from them. Surely, the generality of the Nigerian public would back such a move by those seen to be a bit more principled than the rogues gallery that has held sway over our political lives for more than 40 years. However, this may not be feasible for now, since money continues to play a big part in politics and the ignorance and impoverishment of our people continues to be an impediment for such a civilian coup at the present moment.

Therefore, the best way to go, for now, is to have a coalition of forces and make them form a government of national unity that would draw its personnel and operatives from the different political Parties, including some of the fringe Parties. Indeed, it was my sincere hope that the configuration of the APC following the merger of the opposition Parties before the 2015 elections would have led to such government.  It is sad that from the very beginning the Party embarked on fratricidal, internecine and suicidal warfare from which it has not since emerged.

In reality, I predict two options. The PDP may implode and dissolve into the old PDP and a new Party, or the coalition may form a third party and draw extensively from APC and PDP. The problem is that not much would have changed. Only the name, and nomenclature, perhaps, would have changed. The same characters would migrate into this potential third Party from both Parties and no one would reject them. It may be, that this is one of the failings of democracy as all views should be accommodated within the respective Parties. The inherent danger is it may help APC remain infallible, despite the fact that it would have been greatly weakened by the exodus of a few good men. The truth is that both principal Parties need to be shaken up.  The Coalition for Nigeria may well offer an avenue for this to happen but we must be vigilant.  We must not enter “One Chance” again! The Coalition must not become like the Trojan Horse, primed to lull us into a false sense of security, when the real motive is to spew its rotten guts into our polity and thus damage us even further. My concern stems largely from those who appear to be the conveners.  I am not overly confident of their credentials to do the task that Nigerians expect of them. We pray and wait with trepidation.

Meanwhile, I plead with the conveners of the Coalition, again, to think through this risky adventure and not set us back several decades.
God bless Nigeria!

Adewale Friday, 2 February 2018
Sustaining A Marriage
*HUSBAND AND WIFE*

Gentleness & Softness are always excellent.They bring about unity,love & peace.On the contrary,harshness brings about disunity & instability
For husband & wife to live in harmony, they must admire & be merciful to one another.Further, she must respect him, & he must be kind to her
Your husband deserves to be respected. Be obedient in good,  polite, keep on smiling, take care of his desire & stomach & avoid suspicion
Your dearest wife deserves massive kindness. Be kind to her in everything: Feed her; cloth her; educate her; accommodate her; & pardon her.
*this part is for you habibi*Ur Wife is neither a slave nor a housekeeper. She is ur companion that partakes in division of labour with U to establish an ideal family.
Conflict is inevitable in marriage. Kindness, fair hearing, forgiveness, justice & softness bring about stability & harmony in marital life
Wife is d shepherd of d household.Her responsibility is a huge one.She is an institution that produces all scholars & pious leaders globally
Are U looking for a faultless wife? A wife that can't offend U at all? If yes, then no one in this world,but rather in Paradise. Be kind pls
As part of kindness, if the wife asks her husband for allowances for breastfeeding her children from him, then he should try to pay her, Evidence of allowances for breastfeeding. Almighty says: Then if they give suck to the children for U, give them their due payment. Q65:6
The Prophet ص would say, "The best among u is he who is kindest to his wife & I m kindest to my wife". No so-called Feminism can beat this.
As wife, your husband is neither a messenger nor an aide. He deserves ur massive respect for his spending etc. Imagine ur life without him?
The attitude of "I am always right" by both husband & wife, brings about chaos & pandemonium in marital life. No one of U is infallible, pls
Both husband & wife must be convinced that to err is human. They must be ready to serve as a mirror to one another. Accept when corrected.
Wives naturally, like to be praised for, their adornment, marital r/ship & cooking. Always remember to say to her "U are superb & Unique"
Satan tries to be a stakeholder in our marital life. If one spouse is ANGRY, d other must not be ANGRY. Otherwise, Satan has defeated both
Husband & wife should try to be talking to one another with a Smiling Face.It is an act of Ibadah,romantic & could lower stress level. Smile
Marital life is a source of tranquillity & peace. It is also the best pleasure of this world. Married couple should always try to achieve that
RIGHTEOUS! Whomever is blessed with a righteous wife, completed half of his religion, so let him fear Almighty with regard to the other half
Always say to your wife:“If U see me angry, calm me down,& if I see U angry I will calm U down, otherwise we can't live together honourably”
For a successful marriage, married couple are urged to control their tongues, & avoid foul speaking by using them freely against each other
Harsh tongue & aggressive tone will not change ur spouse- wife or husband. Rather, U should use kind & gentle words, which is act of charity
Husband & Wife should try to keep their secret, confidential. It must remain within their boundaries. It should not be exposed to outsiders
The best solution for any marital problem is through ENDURANCE & GENTLENESS. Words & Decisions taken in ANGER & HIGH EMOTIONS are rash & wrong
Unsolicited & unexpected gift strengthens LOVE & MERCY btw married couple.Try to surprise ur wife/husband, from time to time with nice gifts
Married couple should avoid undermining d roles of each other in building the family. The roles of each can't be played by d other effectively
For married couple, there must be moments of happiness & sadness.For happiness both should be grateful, while for sadness, be patient & pray

Adewale Tuesday, 30 January 2018